#5 Love is Not Rude

Ask your spouse to tell you 3 things that cause him or her to be uncomfortable or irritated with you. You must do so without attacking them or justifying your behavior. This is from their perspective only.

Andrew and I have much respect for each other, therefore, we try to practice good etiquette to keep the marriage fresh and spicy. Since we started out as best buds and are still the best of friends – we try not to get too comfortable with one another. We still want to be attractive to each other, so no burping, tooting, being rude or selfish, etc. So far…pretty good…

Andrew does so well when I work night shifts (well, any shift). On this day, he cleaned the apartment, did laundry, our taxes, and so much more by the time I got off at 9p. I remember coming home thinking about how my day started out on a wet seat – toilet seat that is! In the movie, “What Happens in Vegas,” Cameron Diaz (as Joy) repeatedly showed Ashton Kutcher (as Jack) how to leave the toilet seat down. Before the Love Dare…I tried training Andrew to do the opposite…”up…down…up…down…up…” I’d rather have the seat left up…then I can put the seat down. I just hate sitting on splashed urine!! I told him he didn’t have good aim! Joy hated falling into the toilet…at least she fell in water (I hope)!

After this day’s dare…I come home to a hubby who grins from ear to ear so excited to see me once again like a hyper puppy ready to get outside, and I just smiled trying not to let the wet seat ruin our greeting. Of course he was excited about me noticing all his hard work, so I knew not to act frustrated or disrespectful. I politely (seriously…politely) brought up not wanting to sit in a man’s pee drops on the toilet when getting ready to leave for work at 6:30am. Then I cooked us a big dinner because I do appreciate him…regardless.

Andrew’s 3 irritating things about Tiffany:
1. Whenever Andrew is not in the mood to talk…Tiffany seems to talk more than ever.
2. Sometimes Tiffany nags on things that aren’t important (but planning is important!).
3. When Andrew is trying to cook…Tiffany is always in the tiny, narrow kitchen over his shoulder watching or just wants to help – which annoys him because it crowds the kitchen and only causes trouble!





Tiffany’s 3 irritating things about Andrew:
1. When Andrew leaves a wet toilet seat!
2. When Tiffany feels like she’s talking to a wall.
3. When Andrew eats all her lunch snacks (at odd times of the day) and they have to spend more money on groceries – she calls it wasteful!


So how can I complain...he throws me birthday parties, cooks dinner when I get home, and greets me at the door :)

The words from the mouth of a wise man are gracious. ~ Ecclesiastes 10:12